You went a little too hard last night. You’re not sure whether it was that third tequila shot or tenth beer that put you over the top. You inevitably did something stupid. Maybe it was a stupid comment, maybe you told someone how you really feel or maybe you made out with someone who was not your significant other.
From here you seem to have two routes that you can take. Either own up to your mistake, or use the “I was really drunk” excuse. It’s been used a million times, but is it a legitimate excuse? Asking around, I’ve heard both sides of this argument and am now ready to make a ruling on the different situations that the excuse is used in.
People like to say that your true feelings come out when you drink, but that doesn’t mean they were ever meant to be said. I’m Minnesotan; we’re the definition of passive-aggressive. I think a million things that I would never in a million years say, but throw some alcohol in the equation and I might let one slip (rarely, because I’ll still be Minnesotan).
Ideally, what you said last night was something minorly dickish and doesn’t require an apology. But in reality, you never know when someone might bring back that tiny thing you said months before when you had a few too many. This is an instance in which the “I was really drunk” excuse kind-of sort-of works, but there’s a grey area. Use it smartly.
You woke up next to someone you’re not proud of, and you swear it was only because you drank so much and had beer goggles on. The “I was really drunk” excuse doesn’t really hold up here however, because let’s be honest, you could be talked into doing that again in a second. Your desires outweighed your standards, alcohol just greased the wheels a little bit.
I’d love to know the exact number of drunk texts and phone calls every Friday and Saturday night. The “I was really drunk” excuse actually works really well here, partly because it’s become so common. We’ve come to accept this behavior as normal, and for the most part we just laugh it off. Obviously it depends on what was said in the message/call, but this has just become part of college culture, and using the excuse is perfectly legitimate.
You got into a fight, destroyed property, etc. All because you were drunk right? Sorry, the excuse doesn’t work here. You should know what kind of drunk you are before you drink. If whiskey makes you want to bare knuckle box, don’t drink so much of it. Part of drinking is knowing you’re responsible to handle it safely.
Cheating is never okay, regardless of how much alcohol you’ve drank.