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5 Alternatives To Partying On A Friday Night

Rosie Brinckerhoff — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:27:00 +0000

Being at a party school can definitely be hard if you aren’t a big party person. I love a party as much as the next person. I love getting dressed up and going out and having a good time. What’s college if you don’t have the party experience with pregames, $9 vodka, and avoiding street throw up like they’re landmines.

With that being said, sometimes the parties seem like too much of the same. Is anything really changing besides your outfit, location, and chaser. Just because you’re at a party school doesn’t mean you’re obligated to go out Thursday through Sunday and run Burnetts through your body like it’s an IV. It’s okay to stay in some weekends and just do your own thing, because there’s more to college than just bar hopping and bed hopping. Don’t feel bad about it, you aren’t lame. Here are some ideas I use for how to spend the nights where parties just do not seem appealing.

Drink/Hang Out At Home

Make sure you have a buddy or a group of buddies who share your love for some peace and quiet some weekends. Whether it’s just five of your friends staying in drinking some Corona’s listening to Wu Tang Pandora, or whether it’s just you and one buddy watching a movie together, it’s okay. You can have just as much fun staying in as you can going out. Obviously show your face in public on the party scene every once in awhile, but don’t worry if you aren’t in every Facebook album every weekend. Life will go on, and your liver and GPA will probably thank you for you commitment to not going hard every weekend.

Relax

The weekends are all about relaxing anyways, right? Why go through the stress of finding an outfit, doing your hair, doing your makeup, pregaming, and walking to a party if you aren’t even in the mood? Do something relaxing if you don’t want to go out. Go see the new movie you’ve been dying to watch but haven’t had a spare minute to see. Have a DIY spa night for yourself and give yourself a facial and a pedicure. Cook a recipe from Pinterest that you’ve spent countless hours salivating over. Catch up on your favorite t.v. series, or even start a new one. Just chill out and do whatever will make you happy. You only get three weekend nights so you may as well spend them doing something you actually want to do.

Explore Your Area

Explore the town or city you’re in! Chances are you’re away from home, so why not make the most of your new stomping grounds? Google local attractions, see if there’s something kooky and cool you never knew about. Just go explore. Years from now you’ll regret just staying on campus and not seeing what else is out there. I know at my school they have a cool little town a couple of miles away with an antique car show and an old- fashioned ice cream shop, not to mention a bridge that’s said to be haunted by Revolutionary War soldiers. There are cool things, you just need to put on your Dora the Explorer face and go find them.

See A Game

Support the student athletes at your school. They have games Friday through Sunday, so why not go to a home one? School spirit will never go out of style, plus college booster clubs usually have free t-shirt giveaways or other cool prizes just for showing up. Root your team on, or even go and rule out that you definitely hate watching rugby. Either way, it’s something to do. Maybe even go to a pro game if you live close enough to a city that has a team. Now those are fun.

Take One For The Team

Be the designated driver for your friends that are going out. You can go to the party and be sober, and then watch all the drunk kids make fools of themselves. That’s always fun, to be on the other end of that. It really puts things into perspective for you. Plus, your friends will love you that much more for making them not have to walk home in the cold. Make a fast food stop for them and you’ll become their late night Mother Teresa.

It’s extremely possible to go to a party school and not party. You just need to trust in yourself that you and only you know what will make you happy. Don’t be intimidated to go to a party school if you don’t like going out that much, because partying is only part of the college experience. Just know it’s okay to be “boring” and not go out all the time, there’s nothing wrong with you and there’s a world of things for you to do (that everyone else will be missing out on!).

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10 Websites That Will Actually Help You Find An Internship

Rosie Brinckerhoff — Fri, 16 Nov 2012 15:59:53 +0000

It may not seem like it, but there are so many internships out there. I’ve had countless friends say they can’t find any, but that’s just a matter of not trying hard enough. It’s all about knowing where to look and knowing how to look. You’re growing up now, so no one is going to hold you hand through it. It may be daunting, but it’s doable. You need to be proactive and get going, because although there are a lot of them they all go pretty quick. Here are a few good resources to help you get started on finding a great internship. May the odds be ever in your favor!

Career Services

Always try your school’s career center. I’ve found it usually doesn’t have a great selection, but it’s better than nothing and it definitely has enough to get you started or at least to spark some interest. Plus, you’re paying for the services, so put your tuition money to work! It’s an untapped resource at most universities, so take advantage of the employees there who are being paid to help you construct a resume and cover letter. Be open to their suggestions, this is their job after all.

Go Abroad

The title explains itself. This site has internships that let you study abroad. If you’re looking to get the heck out of dodge and travel while boosting your resume, this is a good place to start. You can search by what your interested in (i.e. journalism, environment) and they’ll set you up with a list of opportunities. Keep in mind this can get very, very expensive – talk to your family before you set your heart on living out of the country for three months. Unless you’re financing yourself, then bon voyage!

Idealist

For all you do-gooders out there, this site is for you. It’s overwhelmingly non-profit internships and you’ll mostly be seeing ‘foundation’ and ‘institute’. However, don’t let that scare you off if you’re not super interested in that area. They have a lot of cool internship opportunities mixed in there. Searching by city and state seems to work best. I found 7000 in my area alone.

Intern Sushi

This site has some good internships posted. They let you search by city and state, so you can pick locally or be adventurous and pick a new destination. They don’t come up with a lot of results, but the ones they do show usually are pretty decent. (Also, if you want to be a campus ambassador you can get paid by this site for how many people you recruit to sign up – not a bad deal).

Intern Queen

This site couldn’t be easier. All you need to do is sign up, upload your resume (PDF works best for this site in particular) and then search away. They have probably the best selection of local internships when you search for your hometown, and to make it even better all you have to do is click “submit” and the site automatically sends your resume to the internship you’re interested in.

Internships.com

The site boasts having 63, 403 internships to choose from, so that alone makes it worth visiting. You start your search by selecting your major and then entering the city or state you want to work in. The coolest part? It labels for you which is full time, part time, for money, or for college credit. Admittedly, the money sign next to the internship choices is very enticing. Also you can sign up for alerts, but do so with caution (you will receive several texts).

Internship Finder

This site looks a little cluttered at first. Breathe. Navigate your way to the top of the page where it says “search internships.” You can search by keyword or city and state. Prepare to see a lot of sales rep. positions available. You’ll need a while to navigate the search results, as they aren’t as organized as some of the other sites.

Monster

You’ve heard of Monster undoubtedly. So, think of this as Monster Lite. They made a search engine strictly for internships. You can search a full list of every single internship they offer (very tedious) or you can settle for searching by your “skill” and desired location. Use this site if all else fails I would say, as the options listed above seriously trump their offerings.

Google

Don’t be lazy. Make a list of things you’re interested in. For example, public relations and marketing. All you need to do is get your butt on Google and type in “marketing firms in (insert city, state here).” You’ll get a list of nearby marketing firms. Click on several of them, find their career page, and usually they’ll have an area for interns. If not, click “contact us” and shoot them an email. You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

Tips:

Be open. Your career doesn’t ride on this internship. Think of it as a feeler. If you love it, you made a contact for when you graduate. If you hate it, you know to stay as far away from that field as possible.
Don’t expect anything. No one cares about you, except for you. You control yourself and your future, so now is the time to be a go-getter.
If you need help, ask. If you remember a friend had a great time working at a magazine, ask them for the contact information. Ask anyone anything and everything.

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What Disney Couples Have Taught Us About Love

Rosie Brinckerhoff — Wed, 07 Nov 2012 17:14:27 +0000

Disney, for the most part, seems to be responsible for shaping our minds when we were children. They taught us to use our imagination, believe in ourselves, and several other corny (but true) phrases that you can find in sepia toned pictures all across Tumblr. For better or for worse Disney also showed us what love can and should look like by having our favorite characters fall in love. When you really look back at it, Disney gave us the right ideas all along about love. We just have to create our own modern day fairytales, whatever they may be for us.

Ariel and Eric:

Ariel and Eric taught us that no matter how different two people are, they can still fall in love with each other. It can either be hard or it can be humorous. You can think it’s weird that your partner uses forks to twirl their hair, or you can see it as quirky and cute.

It’s all about whether or not you love each other enough to embrace each others differences. After all, love isn’t love until you really appreciate the oddities in your partner. They showed us it’s all about the attitude you put into the relationship and learning to love the things that make you different from each other.

Pocahontas and John Smith:

Pocahontas and John Smith taught us that it’s okay to date outside of your comfort zone, even when people are looking down on it to the point where they want to kill you at sunset while chanting a song about savages. Pocahontas taught us that it can be sexy to defy your parents wishes and date someone who they think is totally wrong for you. John Smith taught us that if a guy really likes a girl, he won’t care if his friends disown him for it. They showed us that you should be with whoever you want to be with, no matter what your peers and families think about it – classic case of following your heart.

Cinderella and Prince Charming:

Cinderella and Prince Charming taught us that social status really doesn’t matter in a relationship. When it comes to love, money is no object. Love is just a chemistry that draws two people together. No fancy dress or pimped-out pumpkin can find you true love – it just happens when it happens. Cinderella taught us that even if you think a guy is too good for you in terms of looks or money, the odds can say that the guy thinks you are exactly what he has been waiting for all of his life. They showed us that when it comes to matters of the heart, no dollar amount or fairy godmother can make it happen for you – it’s just fate.

Mulan and Shang:

Mulan and Shang taught us that the strongest relationships don’t always start romantically. Sometimes they start as best friends (hopefully though you’ll be honest about your gender and not leave that little detail out). Mulan taught us that it’s okay to be a kickass tomboy, and that guys actually kind of like a girl who can hang with the boys. Shang taught us that guys like a girl who can grab life by the balls, and that guys sometimes like a little friendly competition. They showed us that love doesn’t always have to be ballrooms and roses, but that sometimes it can just be two best friends who love each others company.

Belle and the Beast:

Belle and the Beast taught us that looks don’t mean everything when it comes to love. Sure, they obviously help a little bit because you do need physical attraction in a relationship – but they aren’t the make or break deal. You really can find someone’s inner beauty more important than their physical beauty and that’s really okay.

Belle taught us that looks don’t matter and that it’s okay to be swept away by someone you weren’t expecting in the end. When you fall for their personality, everything else about them becomes beautiful (i.e. the beast turned into a beautiful prince – expect less in real life). The Beast taught us that no matter how insecure we may be, there’s someone out there that’s going to love us despite how hairy we may look. They showed us that great relationships aren’t based entirely on looks, and that you need more than that to make a relationship function successfully.

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Real Talk: 2012 Dating Rules

Rosie Brinckerhoff — Mon, 05 Nov 2012 15:25:06 +0000

Don’t expect some ridiculously adorable scene when you first meet. It won’t be a kiss in the rain and you won’t take each others coffee accidentally at Starbucks. Movies gave you a false idea about romance, so try to be as realistic as possible. If you’re setting the bar too high, you’ll never meet anyone. In 2012 we’re all self-centered, busy, and trying to find someone that will make us laugh at the end of a long hard day. If you reject people in hopes of Prince Charming, you’ll end up very, very alone.
Don’t be completely shocked and utterly bothered when you find out that a great deal of your relationship is reliant on technology. Don’t read the articles that say technology in a relationship is harmful, because it’s not. It’s absolutely necessary. There will be plenty of times you can’t be together, and you’ll need to text or call or even video chat. Technology is our friend in 2012, not our foe.
Don’t try too hard in the morning when you guys start having sleepovers. This isn’t 1960 and we’re not expected to be beautiful bombshells 24-7. We have school, we have work, we go to the gym – we’re active humans. We get tired. We get bags under our eyes and our hair gets messy in our sleep and we wake up with terrible morning breath. In 2012 it’s literally impossible to be on top of the ball every minute of every day, so don’t waste your time trying. Shit happens.
Don’t expect to be wined and dined and always have the guy foot the bill. I wouldn’t say chivalry is dead necessarily, but it’s definitely on hiatus. In 2012 we have a really shitty economy. Money is tight and things aren’t as lucrative as they once were. Split the bills, sometimes. You pay for a quick coffee here and there, he pays for the anniversary dinner.
Don’t think that because so many people are unfaithful that it becomes okay to be unfaithful as well. It isn’t. Sure, people are more outgoing and upfront about sex and there’s a hell of a lot of temptation out there, but that is no excuse to cheat. In 2012 we may be on the forefront of yet another sexual generation, but cheating is never okay. It’s directly hurting another human beings heart, and even in 2012 that still isn’t alright.
Don’t have a specific type in mind. Where’s the fun in that? If you only want to date an Ivy league guy who comes from family money, you’re limiting your entire life to a really small dating pool. Be open to different people. It’s 2012, and the world is a bigger melting pot more now than ever. Some of the most unlikely people have the most to offer. Date someone who’s wrong for you so you can appreciate the person who is right for you when they come along.
Don’t listen to old school dating rules. I love oldies as much as the next person, but some of the old standards are seriously outdated. Ask a guy to hang out if you want to get to know him better. Order a steak instead of a salad on the first date. Tell a guy you like him before he tells you how he feels. Be the one to lean in for a kiss if you really want one so bad. Just be yourself. In 2012, that’s the best thing you can do.

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10 Things You Should NEVER Say To A Girl

Rosie Brinckerhoff — Wed, 24 Oct 2012 13:51:23 +0000

When it comes to speaking to the ladies, choice of phrase is vital. Girls over think everything, and even your simplest comment could turn into the main conversation the next day with her girlfriends. Essentially, talking to a girl can kind of turn into walking on eggshells – you don’t know how she’ll take anything, so it’s better to be safe than sorry. There are grenades everywhere in the female mind, and here are the biggest comments to avoid.

1. You Lost Weight

To a guy, this seems like a great compliment! You think you’re complimenting her physique and making her feel good. Unfortunately in some cases, this phrase only provokes the girl to wonder if you used to think she was fat. When it comes to weight, stay away. It’s a lose-lose situation either way.

2. Your Friend Is Smokin’

To a guy, this just seems like a normal statement. To a girl? Either she knows her friend really is a hottie and doesn’t want you to be interested in her, or she thinks her friend is average at best and assumes you have a thing for her. Feel free to talk about the smokin’ celebs, but stay away from home turf where things get personal.

3. Are You Wearing Makeup?

Goodness, this one just boggles my mind. Assume 10/10 times that the girl is wearing makeup. First off, it’s obvious when a girl is going au naturel. Second, girls try to make their makeup look as natural as possible. They don’t cake it on to shout “HEY I’M WEARING MAKEUP!” They wear it so you think they’re just flawless and naturally good looking. This is a loaded statement to say to a girl, because you’re essentially hinting that you can tell her face is painted on, which is what we strive not to do.

4. I Wish You Had Bigger Boobs.

So do we. Don’t make us feel worse than we already do. If we could all be Pamela Anderson’s, we would. Love us with our B cups!

5. I Wish You Had A Bigger Butt.

See above. We all wish we had the J.Lo or Kim K gene, but we don’t. Not all of us can be big booty judies, where would the fun in that be?

6. Wow, You Got All Dressed Up.

Girls put tons of effort into their outfits when they go out. It’s a rigorous thought process, and we leave our closets looking like the ending scene of a bad war movie. We get all dressed up to impress you and to make other girls jealous. Don’t point it out, we already know we got dressed up. Plus, this statement always comes out with a negative connoation.

7. I Didn’t Feel My Phone Buzz.

Yes you did. Our world is 100% reliant on technology, and everyone is best buds with their cell phone. We know you felt it.

8. I Don’t Know, You Pick.

Biggest red flag of a statement. This comes across to girls as A) you don’t care enough about her to make a choice and you don’t think it’s a big deal or B) she thinks you’re a coward because she wants you to take control, but you aren’t. This is also circumstantial however if you’re in a long term relationship and are used to splitting decisions 50/50.

9. It’s Not You, It’s Me.

Well buddy, if you’re leaving a girl it obviously is her. You’re choosing to leave her behind, which automatically makes it about her. This phrase just makes what is bad seem worse. Be a little more honest, open, and original when deciding to use a phrase like this.

10. Huh?

If you didn’t honestly hear what she said, fine. But if you purposely aren’t listening? Big issue. Don’t be with a girl who you try to tune out, and don’t lead a girl on if you aren’t interested in what she’ll say. It’s been said that “huh” leads to breakups, because that’s when guys start to care less about what you’re saying. All girls know this, and now you know that we know.

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7 Substitution Phrases for I Love You

Rosie Brinckerhoff — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 20:19:31 +0000

Michelle expertly implementing #2

“I will eat at Cinnabon with you for breakfast and Popeye’s for dinner, even though I’m trying to lose three pounds before Halloween. I’m sacrificing looking like a sexy kitten to bond with you through America’s fast food. Only for you would I do this.”
“I don’t mind the 30 minute stench you leave in my bathroom after your morning dump. Feel free to do it every morning, it’ll never bother me. You had Taco Bell last night? No worries.”
“You can take full command of the remote tonight. I’ve never let anyone else control it before. I used to take it the bathroom with me when I was little so my sister couldn’t even have it while I was gone. I’m trusting you to find a good show to keep us thoroughly entertained tonight, or at least until I change my mind. Make me proud soldier.”
“Sure you can drive my car, even though I don’t own it and my mom said she would literally wring my neck, like hands tight around my neck, if someone else drove it and got it in an accident.”
“Three years later I still re-wrap your Christmas present at least twice to make sure it looks like Buddy the Elf crafted it himself in the North Pole. Even though you don’t look at the wrapping as you tear away at it, I want it to look like pure Christmas and impress the hell out of you.”
“I hate annoying drunk people, but I have all the patience in the world with you. I don’t mind rubbing your belly and helping you get comfortable wrapped around the toilet. I’ll even get you a greasy bacon, egg, and cheese bagel in the morning to make you feel better.”
“You make me want to be a better me in the world, but only as long as you are with me. Otherwise this is as good as it’s going to get for me (please say you’ll stay)…”

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7 Guys to Never Date and Just Keep as Friends (Or As Strangers….Forever)

Rosie Brinckerhoff — Mon, 15 Oct 2012 16:36:29 +0000

1. Guy Who is Obsessed with Anal –He’d be a hell of a good friend to have around though, because his perpetual ass obsession is sure to keep you entertained. That being said, you don’t want to date him. If you date this guy, every time you hang out he will incessantly ask if he can put it in your butt. You won’t get cute speeches about him loving all of you everyday forever like Gosling gave in “The Notebook,” – instead you’ll be hearing about how he wants to love your butthole forever. Ew. Say what you want, but you girls know you don’t enjoy it. Plus, you become “girl who dates the guy who is obsessed with anal, which means you’re obsessed with it too by default.” Let the judging begin.

2. Guy Who Looks Up to Dom Mazzetti – Okay, do I even need to say why? Dating a guy who is super into himself and his looks is a big no-no. Yeah we all need to love ourselves, but we don’t need to psychologically beat off to our own reflections. The only person who should date a guy like this, is a girl like this. You know just as well as I do how embarrassing it would be to date a guy who is more groomed and has better eyebrows than you do. Be with someone who makes it okay to leave your house looking like garbage, not someone who needs you to be bright eyed and bushy tailed every minute of the day.

3. Guy Who Only Wants to Text – This would just be obnoxious to deal with. Love goes back eons and it was never intended to be dealt with through texting. Dating should be real emotions, person to person. It’s meant to be difficult and a real pain in the ass. What fun would it be if it were easy? You don’t get a pass-go card for dating so that you can handle your business through texting. This guy is just hiding from something – either he isn’t mature enough to deal with you to your face, or he doesn’t care enough about you at all to make the effort to have a face-to-face relationship. Moving on…

4. Guy With a 24-7 Sidekick – We all love Pauly D and Vinny’s bromantic relationship and have fallen deeper in love with them every Thursday night. With that being said, imagine how annoying it would be to actually date one of them. As much as this type of guy might like you, he’ll always like his friend more. That’s his boy! Getting this guy alone to just hang out will be harder than settling the American deficit. You’re setting yourself up for constant competition, with another guy. No matter how big of a bombshell bra you wear, his bud will somehow always outdo you.

5. Guy Who Will Forever be a Mama’s Boy – Every girl loves a guy who is close with his mama. Someone somewhere figured out that girls think it’s cute when a guy is good to his mother, because that somehow should mean he’s good to all other women as well. They say that guys who treat girls like princesses were raised in the arms of a queen, but when it comes to dating there is just something about that that is super unattractive. You don’t want your guys mom to be the ruling queen of his kingdom forever, because in retrospect that just makes you a pawn in your own relationship.

6. Guy Who Has Cheated Before – Why? Just, why? I don’t understand the draw at all. There is no such thing as “mistakes” when you cheat in a relationship. When you cheat, you know exactly what you’re doing the whole time you’re doing it. If a guy cheats on you and you still pursue him, you’re basically deciding that you are comfortable with the fact that this guy thought about you, decided you didn’t matter, and then went on to do something that was obviously going to hurt you. You’d be better off swallowing a grenade than dating this type.

7. Guy Who Wants to be in College Forever – College is a fleeting glimpse of eternity. It’s four years to be responsible for nothing except getting your ass into an uncomfortable seat for an hour or so five days of the week. It’s being able to do whatever, whenever, and however you want. College isn’t real life. It’s a few years to be off the hook before life smacks you in the face and says “WELCOME!” College wasn’t meant to last forever, and thank god it doesn’t. It’s fake. There’s something after it. Don’t date the guy who wants to live this way forever – don’t date someone who thinks its okay to use sheets as blinds and survive off of bacon egg and cheese bagels forever. Because it’s not okay – there’s more to life, and you don’t need to be with someone this shortsighted.

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Don’t Be That Couple

Rosie Brinckerhoff — Mon, 15 Oct 2012 16:35:18 +0000

Everyone has been in a situation before with that couple – the annoying couple. Maybe it’s that they’re disgustingly adorable together, or maybe it’s that they’re trying too hard to look like the perfectly picturesque couple. Whatever it is, it’s annoying and you just can’t sugarcoat it.

You find yourself not wanting to even hang out with this couple. You don’t want to go to group hangouts if they’re going to be there. You can’t stand one more minute watching them caress each other and stare into each others eyes smiling. You don’t want to go eat with them in fear that you won’t be able to keep your food down after watching them spoon feed each other all night. To them, they’re in love. To you and the rest of the world? They’re downright annoying.

If this sounds like you (I know you’ll never admit it, but deep down you know the truth), here are ways to not be that couple in public. Love the hell out of each other in private by all means. Hold hands on the way to class and kiss each other when you say goodbye – just know where the line is when you guys are hanging out with other people.

1. Don’t seclude yourselves at a party, or even at a small hangout.

If you guys made the choice to go hang with other people, then actually hang with these other people! Be social, that’s why you left the house isn’t it? Think of it as an opportunity to show each other off or impress each other even more. It’s always a turn-on for others to see with how social you are and how much people genuinely enjoy being around you.

2. Don’t invite one of your single friends to go somewhere with you guys if you want the night to be about yourselves.

This friend will think awful thoughts about what an asshole you are all night for inviting them to go. If you want it to be a date, make it just for the two of you. Or invite a fourth and give your friend an outlet to talk to someone else.

3. Don’t ask all your friends if they think that you’re cute together.

I’m sure you guys are adorable as most couples seem to be, but don’t ask people for their opinion. Let them think it in their heads, and let them envy you for it. Just don’t throw it in peoples faces that you’re in a relationship and they aren’t.

4. Don’t tell people old stories and memories about you guys.

Honestly, no one really cares about that kind of thing unless it’s a wedding toast or unless it’s universally hysterical (like if one of you pooped your pants on a date). Memories are for the people involved in them – they belong to you guys and no one else.

5. Don’t sign up for all the same classes together.

Chances are you aren’t even in the same major, so one or both of you will be wasting credits and tuition money by taking an unnecessary class. By all means be study buddies in the library together, but take the classes you need for yourself.

6. Don’t write on each other’s Facebook’s about how much you love each other.

No “I love you baby!” or “Xoxo!” or anything like that. Save the gush for birthday posts, or circumstantial times (example: studying abroad, vacation, etc.). There really isn’t ever a need to profess your love on Facebook due to handy cell phones anymore – just use your discretion. (Same goes for Twitter).

7. No hankypanky in front of your friends if it’s a small hang out!

If it’s a big party, everyone will be guilty of some sloppy PDA session. If it’s a little group of friends, it’s just nasty. You guys are there to hang out all together. No one wants to see you guys making out or teasing each other. It’s tacky.

It’s awesome to be in a great relationship where you are 100% completely happy. Keep in mind though that not everyone else around you is feeling that monogamous bliss – and they don’t want to see what you and your boo are putting out there. Being aware of your surroundings is really all you need to do in order to avoid being that couple.

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Take A Hint Guys: 10 Signs Shes Not Into You

Rosie Brinckerhoff — Mon, 08 Oct 2012 14:38:19 +0000

Deciphering subliminal messages has gotten harder in recent years. Sadly, we don’t live in a world where we can yell “I LIKE YOU!” or “LEAVE ME ALONE!” as nice as that would be. Instead, girls have grown accustomed to playing this twisted guessing game leaving guys all over the world baffled. Here are ten surefire ways to tell you that the girl is absolutely, 100% not into you.

You sat next to her in class the first day and you were trying to mack on her. She moved away the next class session. Don’t try and sit next to her again, she didn’t enjoy it the first time.
When you look at her she avoids all eye contact. Just looking at you makes her uncomfortable. One on one conversations with you are painful to her, and she prays for any distraction to get her out of the conversation.
She gives you one word answers. No, not the cute shy kind. The “ew, can you stop talking to me now?” kind. She’s just hoping for as little interaction as possible with you. Take the hint, don’t force it. She’s just not that into you.
She shows you pictures of her girlfriends and tells you how much you’d hit it off with her friend Alex. She’s trying to offload you onto the next girl. She doesn’t care about your well-being, she cares about getting you away for her own sanity.
You ask to trade numbers and without hesitation she says she’s got a man. Sure, she might have a boyfriend. But any girl that jumpy is probably lying and wants you to quit trying.
You make small plans and she blows you off and swears it’s an accident. First time, shame on her. Then when you reschedule, she blows you off yet again. Second time, shame on you.
If she’s friends with your buddies and they tell you she thinks your gross/weird/coming on too strong – trust them. They aren’t trying to save her for themselves, they just know what she really said about you and they’re probably sugarcoating it for you to make the blow easier.
You let her know about a pretty good party happening over the weekend, three kegs, whatever. She shows up and blatantly avoids you and ignores you. You’re her party scout, and that’s it – it’ll never turn into anything else.
You see her carrying something heavy and she obviously needs help, but when you offer? She says she has it all under control. This girl would rather be in physical pain doing something strenuous than talk to you or owe you something.

You tell her straight up that you like her and want to take her out and she puts you in the infamous friendzone. Don’t fight it – just move on while you still have your balls fully intact.

Why It’s OK To Be In The Friend Zone

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How To Fix It: Dating A Guy Whose Friends Don’t Like You

Rosie Brinckerhoff — Wed, 03 Oct 2012 16:16:24 +0000

When you’re dating someone it may feel like you two are the only people in the world. Well, you’re not. As nice as that would be, there are other people in the equation that you have to get along with for better or for worse. Hopefully you get put in a great situation, one where you love your boyfriend’s friends and they love you back.

If you’ve hit relationship jackpot with this, then good for you, you’re a lucky girl. If you’re part of the other 95% then you’re bound to run into an issue where one of his friends doesn’t like you. Not everyone will like you in the world and more specifically, not all of your boyfriend’s friends are going to like you. So, what do you do about it?

Scenario One: The Trash Talker

The Problem:

So your boyfriend’s friend talks bad about you. He fills your guy’s ear with how many parties he’s missing because of you, and regales him with stories about the slutty cheerleader who licked whipped cream off his chest one night. He tries to make you seem boring, annoying, and as though you’re personally responsible for making his life worse. You’re not. Not only is he bad to you, but also he starts to take it out on his friend, your boyfriend! He starts not inviting him places and ignoring him. Then when your guy sends him a message and asks why he’s acting that way, the friend naturally blames it on you and says, “I didn’t think she’d let you.” This guy tries to sabotage your relationship by always making you seem like the fun sucking bad girlfriend.

How to Fix It:

Chances are this guy is just an asshole, but maybe it’s something else. Maybe he just misses his friend and blames that on you for taking him away from him.

Confronting his friend won’t do anything: he already thinks you’re bad enough, there’s no reason to add fuel to the fire. You can’t tell your boyfriend that you hate his friend, because then you actually do look like the bad guy.

How to handle it? Kill him with kindness. Buy their apartment a 30 one night, send pizza over for Sunday night football, whatever – just show his other friends that you’re not so bad at all and you’re actually pretty cool to be with. Let the friend have his doubts about you and move on.You’re not dating him, and if you’re still dating your boyfriend after this kid tries to interfere then you can be rest assured that your boyfriend doesn’t care much about what his friend thinks after all when it comes to your guys relationship.

Scenario Two: Rude Guy

The Problem:

This is his friend that basically doesn’t acknowledge your existence. You’ve known him for a few years now and he still hasn’t warmed up to you. It almost seems as if he’s trying to make your life harder. You try to wave, try to be nice, and he just blocks you out. It’s hard to say if he just doesn’t like you, doesn’t care to be friendly to his buddy’s girl, or if is just a lost cause all together.

How to Fix It:

As much as it’s going to suck dating someone with a friend like this, you just have to brush your hands off and move on. Still be nice and courteous when you see him, but don’t make it your job to win him over. Make yourself feel better by remembering that obviously your boyfriend sees something in this guy so he can’t be completely awful, even though he may seem that way to you. Sure it would be nice if your boyfriend’s friends all liked you, but why waste your time trying to win over one of them who obviously isn’t the best person to be close with.

Don’t expect too much from anyone. Even though you’re mature and friendly doesn’t mean his friends are going to be. Be yourself, throw in a little extra effort here and there, and then if they still don’t like you it’s safe to say it’s not your fault. If your boyfriend is still with you despite this bad friend of his, then you both can rest assured that this kid doesn’t matter now, and he never will.

Of course you want his friends to like you, but you don’t need to and shouldn’t have to kill yourself trying to win them over. It’s only fair that they put in just as much effort as you are. When it comes to bad boyfriend friends, try to keep your cool before you wipe them clean from your hands and move forward.

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