So you did it. You’re finally starting to mature, at least in the college sense of the word. You decided to make the switch from the single, party lifestyle to the committed (although you still like to party) lifestyle. Being in a relationship in college can be awesome. You’re no longer struggling with the high schooler’s dilemma of needing your parents to drop you off at the movies, or asking permission for that special someone to come hang out at your place. Freedom is at your fingertips; just remember to use it wisely.
We all know that couple; the couple that only hangs out with each other – the ones attached at the hip. You do not want to be this couple. I’m all for being close and hanging out, but you have to remember to have your own lives too. It’s easy to get so caught up in the excitement of a new relationship that you forget about the other people around you. Don’t let yourself be that person who blows off your friends every night to go on a date. Remember to keep a balance. Just because it’s easy to spend every second of the day together when you’re in college, but that doesn’t mean that you should.
Don’t let being in a relationship stop you from having fun. Simply because you’re past the party-hookup stage, doesn’t mean you’re past the party stage. Maybe your girlfriend or boyfriend isn’t there this weekend, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still go out and have a good time. Don’t feel bad about doing your own thing on a Friday night either. You can both go out and have a good time on your own even if the other isn’t around. College is all about having fun; don’t let your relationship hold you back from that.
Recognize that you each need your own space too. You don’t want to smother each other, otherwise you’ll get tired of each other pretty quickly. Make time for those other things too, like studying and student organizations. And even though you might be tempted to spend every night together, keep a healthy balance and spend the night in your own bed every once and a while (alone that is). Your roommates will probably appreciate this too.
Category: Dating / Sex